Have you ever seen someone looking absolutely fabulous in a dress you’ve been chasing down your favorite designer about and suddenly felt that pang of jealously erupt somewhere inside you? Or, have you ever been to a lunch with your best friend and seen the person you’ve had a crush on forever hanging out with someone else and you felt something break inside you? Have you ever felt terrible about someone getting the promotion you’ve had your eyes on for so long?

If you’ve been in any or all of these situations, congratulations, you are a completely normal and mentally healthy person. We all feel jealous. It is a very common and a very human emotion. In fact, some researchers argue that certain types of jealousy can actually be healthy and good for you!

However, the problem arises when it starts affecting you, your mental health and even your day to day lives. If that’s happening to you right now and you don’t know how to understand what you’re feeling, here’s what to do.

Figure Out Why You’re Jealous

First things first. The first step in your journey to dealing with feelings of jealousy better is to get it more. Figure out why you’re feeling jealous in the first place and what triggers you.

Is it a person? An ex? A job? A promotion? Someone’s looks or wealth? Once you have that answer, we can focus on dealing with it.

Lead with Compassion And Don’t Act Out Based On Jealousy

Most of jealousy happens when you’re insecure about something within yourself. At times when you’re feeling overwhelmed about jealousy and you fear acting out based on your negative emotions, remind yourself to practice compassion, for both, yourself and the other person.

This means to accept that you’re not perfect, and so is the case with the person you’re jealous of. Remind yourself of your own strengths and that of theirs too. Try to focus your energy towards admiration instead of jealousy and envy.

Find Your Grounding And Sense Of Security

The last step is to find your own grounding and sense of security. Think of all the things you’re great at, everything you’ve accomplished, and everything awesome that you have. This will boost your self-confidence and raise your self-esteem, taking the focus away from jealousy.

If things still don’t get better, a great step towards healing is hypnotherapy. If you’re interested in looking into more about hypnotherapy, feel free to get in touch with us.  Our expert hypnotist, Rekha Shrivastava specializes in helping people connect with themselves better build their self-esteem.

If you’re interested, you also have the option to book a  free consultation at our office in Pittsford. For those who live outside of Rochester, Rekha is also available for Skype sessions.