Having both positive and negative emotions is a sure sign of a healthy mind. While it has been assumed that men find it difficult to express their feelings, we have all feared self-expression at one point or another in our lives.
It is very important that you understand why you are finding it difficult to express yourself. Poor communication can lead to relationship and career issues.
Let’s take a look at 6 reasons why expressing feelings can be fearful:
You Are Avoiding Conflict
Sometimes, expressing yourself can lead to conflicts and arguments. Letting the other person know how you feel can be straight up confrontation and that’s not what you want.
Moreover, you might feel that expressing how you truly feel would lead to trouble. This is also known as ‘Ostrich Effect’ – hiding your head inside the sand to avoid agitation.
You Want to Be Emotionally Perfect
Negative feelings, such as those of anger, jealousy, sadness, depression, etc. are considered a sign of weakness and vulnerability. You think that you should not express these negative emotions as that might portray you as irrational.
It is your need to be in control at all times that might be stopping you from self-expression. Pent-up emotions are quite unhealthy and can lead to psychological and behavioral problems.
You Have Low Self-Esteem
Low self-esteem can also lead to difficulty in expressing yourself. You believe that your feelings do not matter and that you are not entitled to express them.
Also, you have this strong desire to please others and meet their expectations.
You Have a Fear of Rejection
Expressing your feelings means that you are putting yourself out in the open. You are being vulnerable. You fear that the other person might judge and reject you based on your feelings.
This fear of other person’s disapproval might make you keep your thoughts and feelings to yourself.
You Feel a Sense of Hopelessness
Whether it is a relationship or a job, feeling hopeless about it is the worst thing that can happen. Once you have given up on something, you do not see the point of expressing your thoughts and opinions on the matter.
You Are Being Passively Aggressive
You might be hiding your feelings and emotions inside because you do not want the other person to get the satisfaction that his/her behavior is causing you problems.
However, this containment of emotion is not healthy and hinders functional communication.
Rekha Shrivastava at Blossom Hypnosis helps people deal with phobia of expressing feelings. Through effective hypnosis procedures, she helps clients in Rochester, New York become emotionally mature individuals. She also offers Skype sessions for clients living outside of New York. Contact Blossom Hypnosis for a free consultation.