Out of the many emotions we as human beings have been blessed with, anger is most definitely a pertinent one. If channeled and processed in an amicable manner, anger can be the driving force behind success, ideas and creativity. On the flipside, if not processed appropriately, anger can be extremely destructive both to the person experiencing it as well as to others around them.
Some of us really struggle with expressing our anger which brings us to the question; how does one express their anger in a healthy manner anyway?
How to Express your Anger Appropriately
The thing with anger is that there is a line between appropriate expression and an unchecked (and often counterproductive) blowout! We’re going to delve into some simple ways that you could go about expressing your anger in a manner that will help you eject the negative emotion without harming yourself or anyone else.
Talk about it (to someone safe)
The first and simplest way to express your anger about a situation is to vent. You can speak with someone close and safe about what is making you angry. You can express the magnitude of how horrible you feel without the fear of repercussions.
Venting and getting things off your chest in a safe space is highly recommended. At the same time, just be careful that you don’t sucked in to a dynamic where most of your time is spent talking about the things that upset you! That is another hole you don’t want to get sucked into.
Return to Sender
We’re talking about writing a letter that you don’t actually send. The purpose of this is simply to get what you’re feeling out of your system.
Writing generally can be massively therapeutic. One way of expressing your anger when you can’t just put it back out where it came from is by writing an angry letter regarding the situation and either burying it or burning it. Technically, you could even save such letters in a safe place. Chances are you will be quite tickled in retrospect if you read them once you’re calmer!
Work it Off
Anger is stored as energy in our bodies and a great way to get rid of it is to work it off. Whether you do so by going for a run, hitting the gym or joining a boxing class is up to you. Whatever you need! Just as long as you have an outlet where you can really let that angry energy out and exhaust yourself you should be okay! Working it off really helps.
Use the Arts
At times it is hard to put our anger into simple words. It may feel overwhelming – like it’s a little too much to just say out. In such instances, what may be helpful is to look into another means of getting the anger out. Try painting or sculpture if you have the skills. If you play an instrument come up with an angry progression. You have a lot more than words to help you get rid of that negative emotion.
Partake in Dialog
If you feel you have the containment to express your grievance directly to the person it concerns then by all means do so. Expressing your anger does not mean shouting or being rude. It simply means holding your ground and stating what upset you remaining firm yet polite. If you feel you have it in you to hold your cool regardless of how the other person may respond; what better than do deal with the anger at the source?
When Expressing is Hard
The methods above should be helpful in most cases however if you’re having trouble connecting with your anger or expressing emotions you might need some extra help. If you feel you have a fear of expressing emotions and need help expressing your feelings you have remedies you could try out and we’re always here to assist!
Sources
https://www.mindful.org/stop-bottling-up-your-anger/
https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-reasons-you-cant-say-how-you-feel/
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/200807/what-your-anger-may-be-hiding
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creative-explorations/201706/understanding-anger
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